I'm a 26 year-old genderqueer boycreature from Vermont. This Tumblr is devoted to connecting with my trans peers worldwide and also sharing my experience from beyond/between the gender binary. This is an ode to embodiments of intentional androgyny, permanent liminality, genderf*ck, chaos magic, and the subversion of oft-uncontested heteronormativity. Stay tuned and watch me sing myself into being... :) In addition to gender-related stuff, there may occasionally be content relating to spirituality/the occult, gaming, ecology, sci-fi, psytrance and other magickal things.
One of my best friends from back home in Vermont is also one of the best storytellers I know. She runs a really great blog, and her most recent post touches on some really important issues about essentially the not-so-fine line between an “open” relationship and being emotionally abused by a benevolently misogynist dude. You gotta be careful for those. She also really succinctly conveys the phenomenon of female rivalry/jealousy that can be seriously amplified, and even completely created, by being on the receiving end of emotional abuse and disrespect.
I’m really freakin’ proud of her for being able to tell this story. I’ve seen her blog come such a long way! Check it out, friendz.
When I was in college, all I did was play ultimate Frisbee. And I thought that how well a person played ultimate Frisbee was a pretty good determination of their character.
So when one of the best ultimate players in the world, Ben, showed an interest in me, I was thrilled. When he said, “I’d like to date you, but with no rules, no commitment, and I get to flirt with girls, sleep with girls, travel with other girls, do absolutely whatever I want, and you have to be okay with that,” I really thought about it. Initially, it did not seem like such a great idea. And then I considered what a good Frisbee player he was and I was like, “This seems like a really good deal for me. Onward!”
This was also a time of great enlightenment for me. I was a junior in college in Seattle, a very sex-positive city. I was taking all sorts of college classes, for college credit, towards my college degree, about sex. I took Sociology of Sexuality, Psychology of Sexuality and Psychobiology of Women. I remember my mom calling me and saying, “What’s next? Poetry of Sexuality? Math of sexuality?” And I remember thinking, Those both sound good, I ought to look those up in the class directory.
At the same time, I was making a lot of new friends. Some were polyamorous, some were part of Seattle’s “kink” community, and virtually everyone was bisexual.
I was learning all sorts of new things. I listened attentively, took a lot of notes, and always read the suggestive readings.
So when Ben suggested that we date- but that we pretend we’re not dating around others so that he could keep his options open, I thought- fantastic! A chance to prove how super open minded I am!